Author: Josh King

Laban tries to manipulate God, Jacob tries to “help” God.  Both actions are futile, both are God-belittling.

Have you ever contemplated manipulating the sun?  When you are sick of winter do you think of moving the sun so that spring begins a bit earlier?  Or do you wish your geographical setting more temperate, tropical, arid, or frigid?  Do you desire to harness the suns energy and use it as you desire?  Is it your ambition to catch, harness, manipulate, contain, direct, and tame the sun?

Or have you ever thought about helping the sun?  “You know its life span is so short, I really must help it out, go visit it and throw a few logs on the fire as it seems to be running low on fuel.  Here Mr. Sun, let me give you my flashlight, now you will shine much brighter and longer, now people will notice you.”

Such thoughts are absurd.  If someone were really to have them we would think of committing them.  Such thoughts are insane.  If such thoughts are to be dubbed insane concerning the sun, what word could we possibly use to describe the foolishness of manipulating or “helping” God?  The sun is small compared to our God.  Infinitely smaller.  He is the God who made sheets of suns.

Yet we try to manipulate Him.  Spiritual gurus who share their seven steps to an abundantly blessed life are really just telling you that they have found the secret way to rub the lamp, tickling the genie so that he will give you all your wishes.  Christ and His crucifixion do not bring you into blessing, rather it is these seven steps.  God is still the ticket, but He is no longer the main attraction.  “God I’m living by these rules, you owe me a blessed, happy, healthy life now – that is why I ask ‘why?’”

Seeming much more pious some of us are dedicated to serving God.  Beware, there is a way to belittle God by serving Him that makes Him look just as foolish (Acts 17:24-25).  God does not need our programs.  He does not need our intelligence.  He does not need our charisma.  He does not need our gifts, He gives them.  We are always the recipients, more so when we serve, not less (1 Corinthians 15:10.  God has no lack and we supply no need.  He could work much more efficiently without us.  Rather as a dad he invites us into His work so that we may gain.

So denounce trying to manipulate your heavenly Father for worldly pleasure and realize you help him like a toddler helps his dad repair the car.  Because of His love towards you He invites you to get in His way, get caught up in His greatness, look like Him, and be filled with the joy of working with and being with Him.

If Jacobs’s home life growing up in his parents’ home would have made Dr. Phil, the home under his own authority would have made Jerry Springer.

I grew up with two sisters, that was painful enough (love you Kim and Kris); I cannot imagine being married to two sisters.  Here a war rages between the two of them and they use their children as the ammunition.  What an excellent picture of motherhood.  Have you ever heard a Mother’s Day sermon from our text?  They have their idols and they are worshipping them.  Babies function as just false saviors to save them from their false hell and deliver them to their false heaven.  But the gods are angry, they do not satisfy, they don’t deliver, they don’t save. 

Leah’s problem is not that she desires the wrong thing, but that she desires wrongly.  She doesn’t simply desire her husband’s love, she worships it.  Babies and God himself are just stepping stones to her true desire.

Rachel, like Jacob, as the younger wants to trump the older sibling.  She gives us the classic phrase for idolatry diagnostics, “Give me ______ or I shall die!”  She doesn’t have a pure desire for children, she just hates being in second place.

The issue here is not even the intensity of the desire.  Sorrow and joy are not exclusive of one another (2 Corinthians 6:10).  If you would counsel Rachel and Leah simply by saying, “rejoice in the Lord”, this is too simplistic.  Sometimes the more joyful you are in the Lord the deeper your sorrow.  For instance, the more satisfying I find God to be the more burdened I will become for the unreached peoples of the earth.  Today if Leah could read Ephesians and see what marriage is supposed to portray it would not decrease her desire for her husband, it would heighten and sanctify it.  Her desire for her husband is not tempered and purified by a white hot, holy, and greater desire for the only water that can satisfy.

Jacob’s character fairs no better in this passage.  The women speak and know of Yahweh so evidently some spiritual leadership is being exercised, but he fails pathetically in resolving and squelching this conflict.  The one time he speaks is in anger, and, as typical with dudes, it’s not so much what he says but how he says it.  Ultimately Jacob is dismally reduced to the status of a stud.  No, not stud in a juvenile cool sense.  He is pimped out by one wife to another for some “love apples”.  Jacob has simply become a male used for mating and breeding purposes.

And yet, from all this mess we discover that God again is working behind the curtain of this Jerry Springer drama to bless them and bring about His covenant purposes.  As Dale Ralph Davis wrote, “The chemistry of divine providence takes the crud and confusion of our doings and makes it the soil that produces the fruit of His faithfulness.”  Their sins don’t thwart His plans they accomplish them.  For two generations the family that is to become a nation has only been multiplying by one, but now, in the mist of this chaos, a nation is being formed.  Sound familiar, holy blessed creation out of chaos, blessing over curse?  God at the same time is disciplining them and forming the nation.  Blessing and discipline surely are not antonyms, but synonyms.

Because of sin our ears are broken such that we more easily hear a whispered lie than shouted truth.  We look to circumstances and not covenant as the gauge of God’s love.   Our car rather than the cross tells us of God’s love.  The car breaks down , the whisper “He doesn’t love you” is heard, and our heart cries, “why?” 

The “biggest” word in this whole narrative is the first one, “Then…”.  This takes us back to the divine encounter in chapter 28.  “Then” has not only chronological, but also theological significance for God has just promised to be with Jacob and keep him wherever he goes (Genesis 28:15).  This means that everything in this narrative, both halves of it, are expressions of God’s love and covenant faithfulness; both the first half in which everything delightfully seems to be falling into place, and the second half where everything in God’s discipline is seemingly falling apart.  In fact the second half is saturated with more of God’s love than the second.  God will sovereignly use a sinner to sanctify His saint, and He is loving in doing so.

If you are in Christ, God’s only stance towards you is love.  It is wild, radical, uncompromising, unfailing love, but it is love.  It will tolerate no toxic sin in you.  His discipline is an expression of His love, not His wrath.  Do not despise His discipline, esteem it (Hebrews 12:5-11).  It is not pleasant in itself, but one day the night of chastening will end, and the morning will dawn with you discovering that you look a little more like God for He disciplines us unto holiness, and holiness is the greater happiness.  Oh how good it is for us to be afflicted (Psalm 119:67, 71, 75)!

How is it that nothing can separate us from His love (Romans 8:31-39)?  Jesus also, more than Jacob, relentlessly and joyfully pursued a bride.  In His quest for her he deals not simply with some wily Laban.  Sure Satan is the accuser of our souls, but he is not the owner.  He will be defeated, not paid in this transaction.  If Jesus simply had to pay Satan the cost might be cheap.  Oh, what Christ would pay for His bride!  God must purchase us… from Himself.  We stand under His wrath, and He would have us stand under His love and He will compromise none of Himself in order to transport us (Romans 3:24-26).  Justice must be satisfied, His glory manifested, His name honored.  No mere 7 years of labor, but the wrath of God was suffered on the cross for this bride.

May you hear the shouts of God’s covenant love over the whispers of circumstances.

I too was sleeping when God “found” me.  Church was presented to me as an option that morning, “Josh do you want to go to church?”  Why would an eleven year old boy say, “yes”?  God was dealing with my father. There was not a spiritual blip on my radar.  My thoughts likely consisted of sleep, Nintendo, and G.I. Joe.  I’m not sure what my motivation was.  I don’t think it was because I thought church might be “fun”, or that girls would be there. If anything it was simply to please my dad.  I was not seeking God, God was seeking me.  Though I was not converted in this moment, a series of events then began that would lead to my salvation.

C.J. Mahaney was not simply sleeping, he was smoking – weed! No, he was not simply a weed-smoker when he heard the gospel, he was smoking weed when he heard the gospel.

I was smoking pot the first time I heard the gospel.

I am a Christian not because I was worthy or wanting to be saved. No, I wasn’t searching for God.

God came looking for me.

It was 1972.  I was sitting in my bedroom when my friend Bob began sharing with me the simple story of Jesus dying for my sins, a story I had never heard despite growing up in church.

But that night, as I listened, God revealed himself and regenerated my heart. I believed and repented. The cross was for me. Jesus was my Savior.  – In Living the Cross Centered Life

I’ve heard C.J. say that he was not only smoking hash, he was happy doing it.  He was not at that time a miserable sinner.  He loved sin and was enjoying it.

This is the major false premise that ruins “seeker-sensitive” logic. We don’t seek God; God seeks us.

I wasn’t just asleep when God found me, I was dead (Ephesians 2:4-5).

God is the ravenous predator, we are the lucky prey – gloriously and blessedly devoured.