God has Defined The Relationship.
I think most people in the west make two deadly assumptions concerning their relationship with God.
1) It exists and it is good. They have never had to do anything to gain it, but they most assuredly have it. They are not super serious about the relationship from their side, but they are convinced the Divine is intensely serious about them. Here God is a Cosmic Care Bear, a Santa Clause on steroids, and a Mr. Rodgers who is everybody’s neighbor.
2) They deny such a relationship exists altogether. They may or may not be adamant about this. Most likely this exists in a soft form of apathy. Whether or not there is such a relationship to be had they just don’t care.
With the rise of an ethereal spirituality in the US I think most people place make the former assumption. They are like the 5 year old whose girlfriend is their kindergarten teacher, the relationship isn’t really real. They “talk to God” kind of like the 30 year old guy who lives in grandma’s garage “talks to girls” online while wearing Star Wars pajamas – the relationship ain’t really real.
We only relate to God within the structures of covenant. Covenant relationships are serious, and this is the most serious relationship of all. Now it is true that all mankind does relate to God as their creator, and God has a posture to general benevolence toward all of mankind, but man as a whole is in violation of covenant, this covenant (Hosea 6:7). The favor and blessing of God are absent. We are excommunicants of the covenant, we are now a dying death. Relationship with God is so serious that the only basis for it is perfection.
You are saved by works. Covenants are unchangeable. They may be superseded, this one never was. This covenant was not annulled, it was fulfilled. Again, you are saved by works, the catch is that they are not your own. Every time you read the gospels, think to yourself as you see the perfect living of Christ, “that is my righteousness by faith”. Every time you read the gospels, think to yourself as you see cursed death of Christ, “that is my curse”.
You are either in Adam or in Christ. You relate to God in one of these two ways. God has defined the relationship.