[Originally posted 10.27.2009. Revised 7.12.2012]
Many hesitate to tell people that they are pregnant after having experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth. They may want to wait until some point in the future when they believe things are more certain. Maybe they don’t want to get people’s hopes up only to have them decimated again. This is understandable, but I would commend to you another way. It may be a harder way, indeed an impossible way, but I believe it is a better and more Christ-exalting way.
Why we celebrate conception and not just birth:
- Because a child is not less a child inside the womb than outside.
- Because the loss of a child makes you want to celebrate every moment you can with your other children.
- Because we want to testify against the abortion, not of fetuses, but of little precious souls. Perhaps one of the greatest ways we can testify against abortion is to celebrate conception and to deeply mourn over a miscarriage or stillbirth.
- Because should the child die, we should weep and mourn a stillbirth or miscarriage for what it is, the death of a life dear to us. As God’s covenant people we are meant to laugh with those who laugh and mourn with those who mourn. Such a loss should not be experienced alone.
- Because it is a way to teach children about the reality of life and death and the God who is sovereign over them.
- Because the next life is bigger than this one. If the child should die in the womb they still have life in front of them. They are not non-existent in the next life, nor should they be in this life.
- Because God makes life and new life, not us. This is a way of celebrating what God does above what we do, a way of celebrating the gospel.
Our deepest praise to our merciful heavenly Father, and our sincerest thanks to all who have prayed to Him for us. Please continue to pray God’s mercy on us for a safe, healthy, and joyous pregnancy and birth.