I watch reruns of Everybody Loves Raymond occasionally, I laugh, but recently in the midst of the laughter I am disturbed, and I am glad that I am disturbed. Ray makes me laugh, but he also makes me angry. He is typical of most TV sitcom husbands, and unfortunately I think reality is not far from fiction. Ray is spineless, he never leads, he always reacts; never do you see him courageously take the reins. He is not led by principle nor love, but selfishness; he wants everyone to like him. He never confronts because people’s perception of him is more important to him than truth and real love. He never spends anytime with his children and acts like he is being tortured when he has to do so. On the opposite side of the spectrum is rude Frank who could care less about what you think about him. Here is the crazy thing though; they are both driven by selfishness. Ray wants everyone to like him; Frank wants things done his way.
Men of faith look very different. Moses was both a courageous leader and meek. He would confront the people and also mediate for them. The men of this chapter (and a couple of ladies) are heroes and the unifying characteristic is faith. Ray may make me laugh, but he is no hero. Here is my advice to any men who may be reading this post:
1) Turn off the TV
2) Pick up your Bible and get to know its characters better than you do Jack Bauer, Steve Nash, or Peyton Manning.
3) Read Christian biography.
4) Point other men (especially your sons) towards these men who shine as stars in a vast sea of darkness.
Too many men today have no clue what it looks like to be a man of faith. And their sons won’t either if they won’t be one for them and point them too others. Point out awesome displays of faith more than awesome tackles. Get a man-crush on Moses and George Whitefield. Get to know men of faith both Biblical and historical and imitate their faith.
Here are a few suggestions as to where to get started:
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John Piper’s biographical sermons. Read or listen to them online for free.


